When I look at my life and the struggles I have faced as a teenager and young adult I have noticed how I always had to WORK for the things that I wanted. My parents constantly told me that “nothing in life is free” so I lived my life by this saying. I always knew that if I wanted it then it was up to me to make sure that I got it. If I wanted certain things that I knew my parents wouldn’t buy, it required me to save up the money to get it for myself. I enjoyed working and spending my own money. When I got my first job (Pizza Hut) at 16 I knew that money and working made me more happier than school ever had. I thought that getting through life with just working was all I needed to do to survive.
When I became a mother at a young age I didn’t value the word parenting. I mean how could I? I was a 17 year old single mother who still wanted to live out her teenage years. I didn’t understand that in the early years of parenting, what I decided not to make a priority would later come bite me in the behind. Things like credit, saving money, or building a foundation for my child didn’t really matter to me much. I just knew that if I went to work and got a paycheck then we would be fine for the next two weeks until I got paid again. I worked 40+ hrs a week and had nothing to show for it. I was content with where I was in my life. I was doing better than most of the teens my age I would tell myself at least.
It wasn’t until I became a mother of three when I finally realized that all the struggles I’ve been dealt with has come from lack of knowledge, income, & never having what I needed handed to me. Most of my adulthood I have been “learning from my experiences” which to me means doing whatever it was I thought was right at the time. After giving birth to my twins it opened my eyes to things I hadn’t noticed before. Like how whenever I needed something it was left up to me to get it or how I was struggling so bad financially and had no one to turn to for the financial help. I was paying out rent when I really should have been paying a mortgage. I had multiple cars in the past but only truly owned one. I couldn’t afford to go straight to college full time and not work because my son relied on my income.
I want more for my children. I want to be so financially wealthy that my boys won’t ever have to know what struggle is like. My vision is to make sure they have cars that are paid off, a house where they don’t have to pay rent, a couple of businesses that their father and myself have passed down to them. I want them to have everything they need to make them successful black men. The broke college student will never be their title because before they graduate they’ll have a savings in place for whatever goal or vision they have for themselves. I want to put my children in a position to win. To be able to win at life and success. As Dj Khald say’s give them the key. When they go off into life it’s already set up for them. They can actually build their credit, they won’t have to worry about student loans and paybacks. When they step out into adulthood they will be ready to conquer anything and if they fall short their dad and I will be there to help them out.
Putting them in a position to win is my goal. The reason I wake up everyday with a purpose. I may be nothing in this world but my children will be everything God wants them to be with my help.