“My name is Ebony, but most people know me as Qayy. I am a 26 years old with 2 beautiful healthy children. I enjoy spending time with them and spending time with my family”
RAVEN: How did becoming a mother change you?
EBONY: Becoming a mother changed me in a MAJOR way! When I say major I mean it. Anybody that knows me should know that. Before I was blessed with my kids I was WILD. Emphasize on wild but now I have a purpose. I know what I went through as a child and I wanna make sure I give my kids the world. I want them to be the opposite of what I was. If I could change a lot from my past lord knows I would and it starts with me. I have to be that positive role model for my babies. I am who they look up to so from the moment I received that news I knew it was crunch time! I had to get up and plan a better future and I did just that.
RAVEN: Who does your children remind you of the most?
EBONY: My daughter reminds me of me and my son reminds me of his daddy. They look and act just like the two of us. Everybody always says they look like the two of us walking next to each other just mini’sz *laughs out loud*
RAVEN: What’s one of your favorite proud mom moment?
EBONY: Everyday is a proud moment to me as a mother. I cherish every moment. I think I cherish a little more considering the fact I had a stillborn 9 months pregnant as a freshman in high school. There is a lot of mothers that have lost, miscarried, and buried a child. That’s a pain that may never heal. So I enjoy and love watching my kids grow to be smarter, brighter, and learn more day by day! Everyday is a proud moment to me as a mother
RAVEN: What is your relationship like with your own mother?
EBONY: Ats my dawgggggg (lil baby’s voice) *laughs out loud* No, but I love my mama! She’s such a survivor. 7 years in December my baby will be clean and sober from an addiction that caused us to miss some of our childhood, but that didn’t make or break us it only made us stronger and wiser! Her struggle is what made me. One of the most strongest I know! Shout outs to LISA!
RAVEN: What traits of your own mother do you think you have inherited?
EBONY: Other than the fact that we look like twins/sisters I think I inherited her skill of motivation and self love. I’ve never met a person that’s been threw so much and been judged by so many that still loves herself as much as she does. She’s so dope! I used to be so embarrassed as a kid having a mother who was on drugs but it does not bother me one bit now because she’s so beautiful and much stronger. It’s really true only the strong survive!
RAVEN: Are you a single mom or do you co-parent? Is it hard for you?
EBONY: I co-parent. It’s always helpful to have that other helping hand. I’m very blessed to have someone who loves my kids and puts them first. Nothing in life is easy if you ask me. Everybody struggles at times, worry at times, want more at times, etc. The list could go on and on but that’s what prayer is for as well as faith and as long as you talk to god there’s nothing you can’t do!
RAVEN: When you get free time away from your babies what are some things you like to do?
EBONY: Free time away from my kids is called ME TIME! That doesn’t always mean I gotta be doing anything sometimes it may just be a time to rest. Time to clean. Wash clothes. Get my nails done. Meditating time.
RAVEN: If you could tell a new mom one thing about parenting, what would it be?
EBONY: If I could tell a new mom one thing about parenting it would be to keep God and your kids first. Always no matter what remember that you are who your child looks up to so set an example. Build a relationship with God and follow his word. Live for your kids and them only! And lastly live your life by this quote “Let your smile change the world, Don’t let the world change your smile!” ❤️