”Hey everyone my name is Teresa Reid (Joanne Marie) I am 26 years old with 3 kids. One son, two daughters ages 3,5 & 8.”
RAVEN: When did you become a mom?
TERESA: I became a mom at a young age, I gave birth to my first born son 9 days after my sixteenth birthday but shortly after the delivery he passed away. Two years later I had my daughter Leveah who is now 8.
RAVEN: What was it like for you to lose a child? How did you heal?
TERESA: Losing a child is the worst thing you could go through. Feeling a life inside you grow kick and move for months just to give birth and go home empty handed with an empty hateful heart. I don’t wish that on any parent! It’s been 10 years but til this day it still hurts like it happen yesterday. I remember everything. I still wonder what my life would be like with a 10 year old little boy. I know I would have loved him so much because I loved him so much before I knew him. They say time heals all wounds but it doesn’t it only gets a little easier over time.
RAVEN: What are some of your learning experiences being a mom?
TERESA: As a mother life teaches you so many things. Becoming a mother makes you wiser and stronger as a human being. Some learning experiences I have had since being a mother is to never depend on anyone! Having your own kids gives you motivation to where no matter how when or what you have to make it on your own. A mother provides, protects and by any means she will get the job done! I have also learned to be careful with who my kids are around because in my eyes no one is to be trusted, no one can love and provide for your kids like you can. It’s more of a protection thing.
RAVEN: What is one of the hardest things you’ve dealt with being a mom?
TERESA: The hardest thing I have dealt with being a mom is seeing my kids hurt. Hurt from being abused, hurt from missing a parent, hurt from going through things kids should never have to go through in life. As a mother no one wants to see their child being mistreated or hurt in any way.
RAVEN: As mothers we try out hardest to protect our children, what is one thing you’ve felt you needed to protect when it comes to your children?
TERESA: When it comes to my children I failed at not having my peace protected. Every parents peace should be protected! Your kids should know and feel that you are truly happy!
RAVEN: One of your biggest accomplishments being a mom?
TERESA: One of my biggest accomplishments as a mother was recent. I took all of my kids to Disney world and I say this is a big accomplishment for me because when I was 6 years old my father and grandmother took me and my siblings & it was one of the most memorable experiences that I’ve ever had. I always wanted to experience that joy with my own kids. The trip was very successful!
RAVEN: What is your overall goal for your children and self?
TERESA: My overall goal for me and my kids is to live a life comfortably, happy and to always make them proud! My siblings all have degrees and that makes me want to go back to school as well. I just want a life for my kids that is well deserved.
RAVEN: What is like having a blended/bonus family?
TERESA: Now that I have the man I always wanted, he has 3 kids and they are my bonus babies! They give me so much joy! The bond I have with them is amazing! I would do anything for them as for own children! I treat them just like their mine! All the kids get along and I just love it!
RAVEN: I’ve always looked up to you being a young hardworking mom, how do you manage being a full time mom and worker?
TERESA: Thank you so much & honestly I just do it. Being a full time mother having minimum help working 7days a week is hard as hell but I do it because I made those babies & they didn’t ask for a hard life. Sometimes I break down and shed a few tears here and there because my health isn’t in top shape, I’ve had heart problems for the last 2years and I have a blot clot disorder in my stomach but I keep it pushing and I pray a lot. One thing my grandma always told me was to take care of your kids no matter what and God will always continue to bless you! I think that’s how I’m still able! My mindset is just to give them everything they need and want plus a little more. I hate working everyday honestly but the job I have keeps the bills paid, and 3kids taken care of without struggling. I know they may not be happy with me working so much but it’s only to get to where I want to be when I’m a little older. I still manage to do things with them and go places but to me that’s still not enough. I wish I could give them more of me but I’m still battling being a single parent. Everyday it gets better.
RAVEN: What are some things you learned from your own mom?
TERESA: I love my mom to death she has taught me a lot. The most important thing I’ve learned from her was to never give up! No matter how many times you get knocked down get back up! Always love your kids unconditionally, cheer them on even at their worst times and pave the way for their future.