“Heyyy y’all!!! My name is Shaquita, I’m a 26 year old mommy of twins! I love people. I love meeting people and I just love surrounding myself around positive energy!! Most of you all may know me as a bartender! That’s something I love to do!!!!! I’m a bartender at Virtue the Venue and at Legends night club! Y’all should come see me, come have a drink or nice glass of wine!!!!! I’m super excited to talk to Raven y’all just don’t know this movement she has going on, it’s pretty dope! You will never know how many people actually don’t have no one to talk to about things like this!!! Thank you raven!”
RAVEN: When did you become a mom?
SHAQUITA: I became a mom, a twin mom I’ll say lol on May 27th 2014, I was 23 years old.
RAVEN: What is twin mom life like for you?
SHAQUITA: What is twin mom like for me? Lol I dont know where to start. It’s fun, wild, exciting, draining, and overwhelming at times but most of all it’s amazing! At times I still can’t believe I have twins but it’s the best thing that could have ever happened to me.
RAVEN: What are some differences and similarities you see in your boys?
SHAQUITA: The twins are like night and day lol! They are defiantly double trouble. Jamarcus is the one who likes to talk your head off, he loves everybody even if he doesn’t know you. He will talk your head off lol, he wakes up talking and won’t stop. Then there’s Jamari who is a little more quiet. He has to get to know you before he even wants to talk to you. He’s not as friendly as Jamarcus. He’s actually the mean twin lol! There’s things like sports, Jamarcus loves football and loves to “rap” but Jamari loves baseball and loves to dance, he can sit and watch a video and learn the moves in minutes. Jamarcus always gets mad when he can’t keep up lol! They are different but what they have the same is their heart, it’s just as big as mine!!!!
RAVEN: As you know I’m a twin mom myself.. When I first found out I was having twins I was terrified.. How did you feel when you found out?
SHAQUITA: When I first found out I was having twins, I sat and cried like a baby. I couldn’t believe it. I had so many emotions running through my head, I’ve shared this story a while back I actually found out I was having twins while at the abortion clinic. There’s no way I could have went through with that. I ran out crying, feeling horrible!!! I still think and feel bad about even having those thoughts in mind because it’s by far the best decision I ever made in my life was to become a mommy of twins!!
RAVEN: If you could go back to when you first had your babies what would you have done differently?
SHAQUITA: I’ve read that question over and over and I can’t think of anything I would have did different. When I first had my kids I had my family who was there for us. Without them I wouldn’t have made it!!! My mama was there every step of the way. My big sister would come and stay at the hospital with me just so I could get sleep. They made me feel comfortable about everything I did!
RAVEN: Do you and the father of your boys co-parent? If so, how is it working for you guys?
SHAQUITA: Co-parenting! Let’s just say I’m still trying and it’s so hard, but all I can think about is my babies and how much they love they daddy so I do everything in my power to make sure I’m doing right on my end to make sure me and the twins dad get this co-parenting together. However, I will say it takes 2.. We have to work together as parents.
RAVEN: Co-parenting has to be a challenge.. How do you manage being a mom and having a social life?
I was hoping you asked me this question. Being a mom and having a social life? Let me tell you when I first had the twins I thought my social life was over. The first 10 months of my kids life I didn’t want to do nothing but sit up under my babies. I remember the first time I went out with a friend I literally sat there in the car and cried. She was so mad at me. She was like “Well why did u come?” Her not understanding at the time because she wasn’t a first time mother. Oh, but let me tell you as a mother you have to learn how to have a social life and I’m not just talking about clubs and drinking. I’m talking about even if it’s just going to work out with a group of people, going to the movies, just having a break from the kids that doesn’t make you a bad mom! If you have people you trust who are willing to watch your babies so you can go enjoy yourself go do it, you deserve it!!!! It bothers me when moms are bashed for going out enjoying themselves. My mama told me when the twins was first born “You still have a whole life ahead of you. I’ll always be here to watch your kids when you need me don’t stop living” and she meant that and I appreciate her more then she would ever know!!! *laughs out loud*
RAVEN: *giggles* Why are you laughing?
SHAQUITA: I’m laughing because let me tell you, on Friday nights when I come in the house from bartending and enjoying my night it could be 4 in the morning but guess what? Saturday mornings I’m still up at 8 in the morning making sure the twins had breakfast and spending time with them. Sometimes I even have a hangover lol but I’m still up!!! So baby don’t think your social life is over because it’s not. Always remember this, social hours are around 9-12 maybe till 3 in the morning, your babies are sleep!!!! No matter how many times I’m out til’ morning my babies wake up to me and I make sure I take them to daycare and that’s all that matters.
RAVEN: I can so relate to that.. Right now though I’m so caught up in my twins going out hasn’t been on my mind, I’ll have make a few drinks though.. lol I’m new to the twin mom world.. Could you give me one piece of advice?
SHAQUITA: Enjoy them! Twins are really something special and any women who has twins is something special. Every women can get pregnant but every women can’t have twins!! I know at times it gets frustrating because I’m telling you I still get like that now, but if you have people around you who want to help you let them! It doesn’t make you any less of a mother. It’s true when they say it takes a village to raise kids because my support system is strong and I’m blessed!!
RAVEN: I’ve truly had to learn that.. Thank you. My support system is amazing between my parents and boyfriends family. It’s a true blessing. I myself though, truly admire you & how you take care of your boys. You work hard and still make time for them.. How do you do it?
SHAQUITA: Awww thank you. I appreciate that raven!! I kind of answered it a little up there, but this may seem weird but I have myself on a schedule. There’s certain nights that’s strictly dedicated to my babies. I’m a bartender so the nights I’m not bartending it’s strictly for them. Every Saturday and Sunday morning I don’t care how tired I am I make sure I wake up early with my babies. I let them tell me what they want to eat rather it’s McDonald or whatever. I just spend time with them!! Every morning I make sure I get them ready for daycare. We wake up early just so we can go over what they learned the day before, and I make sure they wake up to me every morning. It’s the small things that counts, even them helping take trash out. We clean the house, dance around, we have this thing where we have a concert every morning in the car lol. My day wouldn’t go good without that early morning turn up with my babies! Some days when they spend the night with their dad I don’t even like staying home. You know how that goes! Most of all my support system they help me so much and it’s truly a blessing!!!
RAVEN: When you leave this world, what is one thing you want to make sure you’ve taught your boys?
SHAQUITA: One thing I want to make sure I’ve taught my boys is how to love and how to be honest. I make sure I hug and kiss my babies and tell them I love them every single day, because in this cruel world when you lack love as a child you can easily turn out to be someone who runs around hurting people just because you was never taught how to love and be honest!! When your hurt is pure, God always have a way of making things work out in your favor💗❤️