“My name is Demia, I’m 22 years old from Looey-Ville. 4 months ago I joined mommy gang and I am now a mom to a beautiful baby boy named Caisen. I’m currently enrolled at JCTC in the surgical technician program. I am the content creator of the blog Take what you need. My passion is to inspire women, especially those of color because I know how many challenges we face daily and I also know how good it feels when someone is rooting for you!”
RAVEN: When did you become a mom?
DEMIA: I became a mom the day I found out I was carrying Caisen which was July 31st, I officially became a mommy on March 27th!
RAVEN: What was your relationship with your own mother?
DEMIA: My relationship with my mom just like any other girl with her mother had it’s up and downs. My mom had me at a very young age so as I was growing, so was she. During my teenage years I couldn’t stand her to be honest lol. When I got pregnant, our relationship grew for the better.
RAVEN: Was there something your parents did when you were a kid that you swear you’ll never do to your own children?
DEMIA: One thing that I won’t do with my own children is treat them differently. I understand some require extra attention due to certain reasons but far as the way I raise them up, “spoil them”, they’ll all receive the same me.
RAVEN: How do you balance being a stay-at-home mom and a social life?
DEMIA: There is no balance honestly. I stay at home more than I socialize. I had my fun when I was younger, I hung out with everyone that was older than me. I recently just started going back out and I promised myself that I would make it my business to party at least twice a month.
RAVEN: What's one thing you wish you did differently before you had kids?
DEMIA: The one thing that I wish I would have done differently was been married and made sure that I financially comfortable. Especially for as long as I’ve been off of work, I know the next time I have a baby I have to be able to stay off of work for at least 6 months and not worry about money.
RAVEN: If you could tell a soon-to-be mom one thing what would it be?
DEMIA: One thing that I would tell a mom is that it truly takes a village to raise a child so allow those that you love and trust to help you. You never know when you’ll need to someone to keep your baby, or what mommy trick you’ll learn from someone. At the beginning of my mommy-hood, I was truly an “I got it” even if I really didn’t. I quickly learned that if you have someone that is willing to help you, let them.
RAVEN: What are some of your self care rituals?
DEMIA: Whew, let me see lol I love to take bubble baths with Aromatherapy lavender and chamomile from bath and body works(all mommas should get some of this). Also, I loveeeee to blog and read.