"My name is Indigo Francis, I'm a Multi-Media Specialist and an entrepreneur I am 23 years old. I'm from Louisville, KY now living in the greater of Cincinnati, OH. I am a mother of two beautiful girls; Harlen Abell and my bonus Daughter, Lundon Abell. I have an online store named "Indigo's Armoire" I just dropped my first collection symbolizing Feminism. I think its really important for everyone to be considered a feminist because men and women should have equal rights, equal treatment, an equal opportunity. These shirts are powerful statements for all women and men to stand up for themselves."
Raven: When did you become a mom?
INDIGO: My introduction to motherhood was becoming a Bonus- Mom to my boyfriends daughter; Lundon. In the beginning I was nervous, I never really seen myself having kids let alone dating anyone who had kids. When I met Len and Lundon for the first time they changed that immediately. In my generation you don't see to many blended families and if you do most likely there's a bunch of drama, especially with social media being so big. I never wanted to come across as "Playing house with someone else's child" or "Trying to take her moms place" so many things I was up against, I can honestly say that I'm blessed that this was not the case in our situation. Lundons mom; Lindsey and I get along great! Yes in the beginning it was rocky but with both of us coming from blended families of our own we were able to adapt to it better. We respect each other and we know our boundaries. It takes a village to raise these kids and everything we do is for the kids! I love Lundon as if she was my own, we have a special bond that NO ONE could ever come between! March 8, 2018 I then became a mother to my first born, Harlen Lei. It was the best thing that has ever happened to me!!! I can't wait to see what the future holds for both of my girls.
Raven: How was your pregnancy?
INDIGO: My pregnancy had it's ups and downs. In the beginning I experienced morning sickness so bad! I remember having to run behind hotels, side of the car to throw up or just staying in bed when I went on an family trip with my boyfriends parents because they didn't know I was pregnant lol. That's one thing I don't miss about being pregnant! Besides the morning sickness, I loved pregnancy feeling my baby move, watching my body change was so amazing. I already can't wait for my next child.
Raven: What is the most rewarding thing about being a mom?
INDIGO: The most rewarding thing about being a mother is days when your feeling down, alone and beat up, you have that person there who truly loves you for you, who needs you, who looks up to you and who is half you. Its an feeling words can't describe. When all your hard work doesn't go unnoticed, or when you just look and see their face light up just by the presence of you at that moment nothing else in the world matters.
Raven: How do you balance being a stay-at-home mom and a social life?
INDIGO: Honestly my social life is really networking and school. Growing up I was one of those who experienced a lot at a young age; concerts, trips, clubs, single life, hanging with friends every day or weekend. I was burnt out by the time I was 21 thats really the last time I had a social life. Now that I am a full time stay at home mom, a full time student and maintaining a healthy relationship, I am working on having a social life again its just hard because I live in a different city than my friends and here I only have a handful of friends but we all have lives.
Raven: What’s the biggest challenge you face as a mother?
INDIGO: Postpartum is something that is currently my biggest challenge I'm facing as a mother. I told my brother that and he completely laughed at me, its sad when people really don't take postpartum seriously.
Raven: If you could tell a soon-to-be mom one thing what would it be?
INDIGO: Be patient with yourself, your body, your wellness. I think today we spend so much time having to prove to people that we are a great mothers by having to everything perfect that we soon shut down. ITS OKAY TO be tired, to need a break, to wanting to go out and have fun ITS OKAY we are human still stop beating yourself up. Yes there will be times where we mess up, times we will have to miss an opportunity, times where we will need advice, there will be times where we have no idea what to do but thats okay! Make sure you have a balance; being a mom and also having plenty of "me time". Also if you never receive the appreciation you deserve that's okay too don't go being hard on yourself.
Raven: What are some of your self care rituals?
INDIGO: During the day when I am able to squeeze in "me time" I love to do facial masks, take long hot showers, washing my hair, and shopping. I also love to meditate, I'll sit there and just plan out my week, month or think of long term goals.