“My name is Demia, I’m 22 years old from Looey-Ville. 4 months ago I joined mommy gang and I am now a mom to a beautiful baby boy named Caisen. I’m currently enrolled at JCTC in the surgical technician program. I am the content creator of the blog Take what you need. My passion is to inspire women, especially those of color because I know how many challenges we face daily and I also know how good it feels when someone is rooting for you!”
RAVEN: When did you become a mom?
DEMIA: I became a mom the day I found out I was carrying Caisen which was July 31st, I officially became a mommy on March 27th!
RAVEN: What was your relationship with your own mother?
DEMIA: My relationship with my mom just like any other girl with her mother had it’s up and downs. My mom had me at a very young age so as I was growing, so was she. During my teenage years I couldn’t stand her to be honest lol. When I got pregnant, our relationship grew for the better.
RAVEN: Was there something your parents did when you were a kid that you swear you’ll never do to your own children?
DEMIA: One thing that I won’t do with my own children is treat them differently. I understand some require extra attention due to certain reasons but far as the way I raise them up, “spoil them”, they’ll all receive the same me.
RAVEN: How do you balance being a stay-at-home mom and a social life?
DEMIA: There is no balance honestly. I stay at home more than I socialize. I had my fun when I was younger, I hung out with everyone that was older than me. I recently just started going back out and I promised myself that I would make it my business to party at least twice a month.
RAVEN: What's one thing you wish you did differently before you had kids?
DEMIA: The one thing that I wish I would have done differently was been married and made sure that I financially comfortable. Especially for as long as I’ve been off of work, I know the next time I have a baby I have to be able to stay off of work for at least 6 months and not worry about money.
RAVEN: If you could tell a soon-to-be mom one thing what would it be?
DEMIA: One thing that I would tell a mom is that it truly takes a village to raise a child so allow those that you love and trust to help you. You never know when you’ll need to someone to keep your baby, or what mommy trick you’ll learn from someone. At the beginning of my mommy-hood, I was truly an “I got it” even if I really didn’t. I quickly learned that if you have someone that is willing to help you, let them.
RAVEN: What are some of your self care rituals?
DEMIA: Whew, let me see lol I love to take bubble baths with Aromatherapy lavender and chamomile from bath and body works(all mommas should get some of this). Also, I loveeeee to blog and read.
“My name is Jamie A. I am 25 years old and a mommy to one beautiful daughter, Aaryn. I am from Louisville, born and raised. I recently started a YouTube channel, Blessed & Busy, where I plan to discuss life experiences in hopes to help someone who may be going through “it”. I think it’s so important for women, mothers especially, to stick together and be there for one another.”
RAVEN: How did becoming a mother change you?
JAMIE: Becoming a mother gave me a purpose in life. Everything that I do is strategic and intentional, because I am working towards creating the “best life” for my daughter. Being a mother gives me the drive to set and achieve goals, whereas before I would procrastinate and put things off. She gives me a reason to plan, push, and prosper.
RAVEN: Who does your daughter remind you of the most?
JAMIE: My daughter is truly her own person. I tell people all the time that she isn’t exactly like me or her dad, but she does have characteristics of the both of us. She is outgoing, friendly, and hilarious just like her dad. She is also passionate, caring, and observant, which I think she gets from me. I’d like to think she is the perfect mixture of us both.
RAVEN: What’s one of your favorite proud mom moments?
JAMIE: My favorite proud mom moment right now, is Aaryn being able to go to kindergarten a year early. There was an early admission test that she had to take in order to prove her readiness and she passed with flying colors. I am so proud that she is going into kindergarten as a 4yr old.
RAVEN: What is one thing you hope to teach your daughter?
JAMIE: One thing that I am currently teaching my daughter (because it’s never too early, right?), is to put God first. I am teaching Aaryn to pray and to always know that God is with her. I feel that it’s so important to teach her to trust that God does everything for a reason. I wanted to start early with guiding her to the Lord, so that she is able to build her own relationship and understanding for God’s purpose in her life.
RAVEN: What traits of your own mother do you think you have inherited?
JAMIE: A trait that I have inherited from my mother is selflessness. My mother is the most selfless person that I know. She has gone over and beyond for her children, always putting our needs and wants before her own. I am that same way with Aaryn. I want her to know that there is NOTHING that I won’t do for her and that she comes first. Even at 25yrs old, I know that I can call my mom for anything and I want Aaryn to feel the same way.
RAVEN: Tell me a little more about your YouTube channel.
JAMIE: My YouTube channel is what I like to consider a “meeting place” for those that frequently ask for my advice or opinion. There isn’t one particular topic that I cover. My goal is to discuss and open up about everything “LIFE”, from motherhood, relationships, goals, grieving, starting a business, self care, etc. I just want to share my life experiences with those who may be going through something that I’ve been through. If I can give one piece of advice to help someone else, I will feel accomplished.
RAVEN: Do you like to read? What are you currently reading?
JAMIE: I love reading. I use reading as a “getaway” when I just need a break from the world. Currently I am reading “Whiskey Words & a Shovel” by r.h. Sin. So far, I’m in love with it. I don’t want to give away any of the details but if you’re looking for something meaningful to read, I highly suggest checking it out.
RAVEN: How do you practice self care?
JAMIE: I always tell people that self care for me, is never a set routine. I just do whatever I feel like I need right in that moment. Sometimes my self care is as simple as lighting a new candle and reading. I also enjoy having dinner by myself because it gives me time to enjoy delicious food and reflect. Self care is whatever makes you feel good! As women and mothers, a lot of times we forget about ourselves and what makes US happy. But it’s so important to squeeze ourselves in somewhere. So to all the mama’s, paint your nails, read that book, meditate, run that bubble bath…whatever it takes! Because lets face it, we are at our best when we are happy and content with self.
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"My name is Indigo Francis, I'm a Multi-Media Specialist and an entrepreneur I am 23 years old. I'm from Louisville, KY now living in the greater of Cincinnati, OH. I am a mother of two beautiful girls; Harlen Abell and my bonus Daughter, Lundon Abell. I have an online store named "Indigo's Armoire" I just dropped my first collection symbolizing Feminism. I think its really important for everyone to be considered a feminist because men and women should have equal rights, equal treatment, an equal opportunity. These shirts are powerful statements for all women and men to stand up for themselves."
Raven: When did you become a mom?
INDIGO: My introduction to motherhood was becoming a Bonus- Mom to my boyfriends daughter; Lundon. In the beginning I was nervous, I never really seen myself having kids let alone dating anyone who had kids. When I met Len and Lundon for the first time they changed that immediately. In my generation you don't see to many blended families and if you do most likely there's a bunch of drama, especially with social media being so big. I never wanted to come across as "Playing house with someone else's child" or "Trying to take her moms place" so many things I was up against, I can honestly say that I'm blessed that this was not the case in our situation. Lundons mom; Lindsey and I get along great! Yes in the beginning it was rocky but with both of us coming from blended families of our own we were able to adapt to it better. We respect each other and we know our boundaries. It takes a village to raise these kids and everything we do is for the kids! I love Lundon as if she was my own, we have a special bond that NO ONE could ever come between! March 8, 2018 I then became a mother to my first born, Harlen Lei. It was the best thing that has ever happened to me!!! I can't wait to see what the future holds for both of my girls.
Raven: How was your pregnancy?
INDIGO: My pregnancy had it's ups and downs. In the beginning I experienced morning sickness so bad! I remember having to run behind hotels, side of the car to throw up or just staying in bed when I went on an family trip with my boyfriends parents because they didn't know I was pregnant lol. That's one thing I don't miss about being pregnant! Besides the morning sickness, I loved pregnancy feeling my baby move, watching my body change was so amazing. I already can't wait for my next child.
Raven: What is the most rewarding thing about being a mom?
INDIGO: The most rewarding thing about being a mother is days when your feeling down, alone and beat up, you have that person there who truly loves you for you, who needs you, who looks up to you and who is half you. Its an feeling words can't describe. When all your hard work doesn't go unnoticed, or when you just look and see their face light up just by the presence of you at that moment nothing else in the world matters.
Raven: How do you balance being a stay-at-home mom and a social life?
INDIGO: Honestly my social life is really networking and school. Growing up I was one of those who experienced a lot at a young age; concerts, trips, clubs, single life, hanging with friends every day or weekend. I was burnt out by the time I was 21 thats really the last time I had a social life. Now that I am a full time stay at home mom, a full time student and maintaining a healthy relationship, I am working on having a social life again its just hard because I live in a different city than my friends and here I only have a handful of friends but we all have lives.
Raven: What’s the biggest challenge you face as a mother?
INDIGO: Postpartum is something that is currently my biggest challenge I'm facing as a mother. I told my brother that and he completely laughed at me, its sad when people really don't take postpartum seriously.
Raven: If you could tell a soon-to-be mom one thing what would it be?
INDIGO: Be patient with yourself, your body, your wellness. I think today we spend so much time having to prove to people that we are a great mothers by having to everything perfect that we soon shut down. ITS OKAY TO be tired, to need a break, to wanting to go out and have fun ITS OKAY we are human still stop beating yourself up. Yes there will be times where we mess up, times we will have to miss an opportunity, times where we will need advice, there will be times where we have no idea what to do but thats okay! Make sure you have a balance; being a mom and also having plenty of "me time". Also if you never receive the appreciation you deserve that's okay too don't go being hard on yourself.
Raven: What are some of your self care rituals?
INDIGO: During the day when I am able to squeeze in "me time" I love to do facial masks, take long hot showers, washing my hair, and shopping. I also love to meditate, I'll sit there and just plan out my week, month or think of long term goals.